Family ties are closer in HDB families wor!!!

Ok lets break down the statement into its various components and examine it closely shall we?

We do we want to stay near our parents? The answer is simple mah.... So that we can have someone to look after our kids when we go out and play lor!!! Some more, since we are giving those parents of ours an allowance, (which has to be higher than the pittance the CPF or gahmen gives hor) they jolly well take care of the breed that we have created... Its their blood anyway... and which grandparent will not dote on the grandchild... unless of course if dementia is one of the underlying problems... Then in that case, leaving the child with a parent can be hazzardous.

Why do we want to stay near our parents? So that we can scrounge on them mah!!!! They cook and we go and eat.... our children also got good food because our wives can't cook for sh*t!!! Most of them even after having taken home economics do not know how to cook!! So instead of giving our children fast food or other outside food, we eat at our parents lah!!

If we live in landed property, are we not close to our parents? Of course not, we are rich and can afford landed, do you think we want our parents to be a part of this luxury???? That is why we are not so close... We can afford a bevy of maids and a fleet of cars... Why have hanger-ons???

So this is so for any country... Even in Japan, my sis in law blows into my in-laws place, drops the kid and then goes off for her sessions with her frens... So go figure lah....

Monster Stands!!!

As you can see here, the monster can now stand on her own... Though not very well and also not for very long, but then it will not be long before she starts to walk.... Oh my goodness.... I am really in for it now.....

Anyway, back to the recent hoohaa about the allowance of the use of CPF for investment purposes. You cannot please everyone huh? When it was not allowed, people used to complain and ask for it, but when they lost money, they again complain about it. But personally, I do think that allowing us to use CPF for investment is a sound choice because if we were to leave it as it is, the interest will be low. Of course, compared to current bank rates, it is higher, but compared to other devices, it does not really compare. But safety and also long term is one thing we all must be aware of. Further to this, the guy who lost over 300k or so is the only one to blame. He should be getting frequent updates if he is investing so much money and make a decision where his level of gain or loss is and decide to cut when he is in the uncomfortable zone. I do not believe that the value of his investment will downgrade by 300k over night. If I were losing money, I would be ready to cut my losses man.

So I do understand sometimes the postion of some people, but the prime motivatin is greed and individual interest. However, instead of the small picture, we should be looking at the larger picture and how we can and when we can use our CPF money to better benefits. It is no use leaving it in the bank till the end of time. And I mean this literally. I do not think I will be able to see that money, no matter how small because now the draw down age is 60, it can and will go to 65 by the time it comes to my turn. And I am hoping that I will still be alive by that time. And of course, now they require that we must put a certain portion as ante before we can even hope to pass it to our future generation.

Haizzzzz.... Life....

Children dream of doing what men do and men do what children dream

This is an interesting topic, in the sense that there are boys and there are men... Please do not mistake what I am saying, I do not mean physcial age, I mean in terms of maturity and security. Boys usually have ego problems and security issues. Even if they are attached or married, they will usually be the cause of a lot of grief, either to themselves or the people they are with. Take for example, a boy will always try to make themselves look like they are poor things. "Oh, I left my wife because of you", or, "oh I love you and will not look for anyone else". There are also "boys" who will take every opportunity to show that their privates are more endowed than others.... Both literally and figuratively hor...

So I was just reviewing my own life and I guess that all I can say is that I have been there and done that and it does not matter to me much anymore. There was once when I would modify my car so that it will be the fastest or the most powerful. But now, I am just happy having a powerful car that many many boys will dream of driving. I have a wife who is beautiful, but in another way, she also cares and loves me for what I am and not for what I promise to be.

Of course, as age comes into play, what used to be important is now not so important. As we get older, our priorities also change. But of course, I know yahoos who are older than me, but not as sensible too. It takes all kinds of people I guess.

So back to the topic, many boys dream of driving a hot car and a fast chick.... or was it a hot chick or fast car??? At that age... does it really matter? But to be realistic, both will have a cost. I saw a show where there was this girl who strung 2 guys, a loser type, but really nice guy and a suave playboy type who sweeps people off their feet. Guess who she fell for and the end result? So like I said, children dream, but the mature do.

My monster likes to say "bye" and wave.... But the big problem is that she is doing it to almost everyone.... And when we want her to do it, she will act blur... I am just wondering if we gave her too much DHA or AHA when she was still in the stomach... Damned... she is too smart for us some times. Most other kids will be like pets... "Doggy sit!" and they will do so.. mine is like.... "hmmm let me think about it first".... heavens....

But it is interesting to have a kid and a lively one at that. But even no matter how cute, we will still be firm... She, like most other kids will start to cry when they know that they are doing something we do not approve and they will start when we say no... We just let her cry and tell her in a nice a way... "we told you not to do it, so don bother acting cute... crying will not get you out of trouble mate"... hehehehe

But then no matter how firm we are, there are some children who really really do not know the difference. I am speaking about my energizer rabbit now... She keeps calling me and saying that now the Euro is slightly cheaper so I should change some now... Oh yea... uuuhhhh.... did she even consider if we had the money to change? And how much will be enough? If I were to change 1k sgd, it will be 500 Euro... she will think it is very little... but then if we change more... how much more will be enough. And even if she accepts the amount, of which it will never be enough, she will always say... "oh yea... to change it back will mean losing money" and she will try to use it all. She does not know the value of money and or how to save... All she knows is how to spend... I am just wondering how the hell people become like that... And the gahmen is not helping us to look after such people.... Only one family member can apply for the looking after parent tax break... Give me a break man.... Anyway.... time to look at baby and just calm down.......oooohhhhhmmmmmmmm

Goodness Gracious!!!

Just wanted to surprise you guys... Actually nothing really happening, but then again, nothing needs to happen before I need to blog... I am a chatterbox and a talkative guy, so please bear with me... Anyway... seriously though, I have been thinking a lot about friendships and so on.... You do not know the true nature of a person until you have been together. Sometimes, it is only a short while and sometimes, it takes years and perhaps even lifetimes before you really get to know the person you think you know... Sometimes it is good, sometimes it is bad... but hey, if you take things as they come, then nothing bad will come out of it.

Why do I choose this topic... it is because in my long long life, I have seen and gained and even lost some friends. Sometimes it is due to bein in a different continent, country or even part of the same small dot, sometimes it is because our circles do not cross anymore and so on. But then I asked myself this question, will I be more sad if I lost a fren (as in he or she passed away) or wud I be more sad if I lost a frenship? This is a deep deep question, as I would say that I would be more sad if I lost a friendship rather than to have lost a friend. A lost friend could be due to a lot of things.. accident and so on... but it is something that we will have to live with... A lost friendship on the other hand is something that we will have to live with in plain sight of that lost friend... Lost me??? Its ok... hehehehehe

She is starting to speak... But gosh darn... she said mama first... officially.... biatch!!!

She is not even 10mths old and she is now playing and holding her own bottle... (Tears in my eye....)... I am so proud....

Will you tell???

No silly... not about affairs and so on... But if you know someone is going to die... Will you tell them? Of course everyone dies... but then if you knew that something someone does or if you knew that the end result of something will be the end... will u say it?

Why do I say this? Well, take for example the Energizer Rabbit... She is taking chemo... she keeps braggin about it to one and all...She says that if she does not take it, she will die... Does she not know that taking it will also kill her? It is a poison... In a way, it will kill off the cancer cells, but it will also kill off your normal cells. And then lets face it... organ failure is a common thing in old people... She is 72.... how much longer will she hang on?

So the root of the question lor... if you find someone who is in a situation similar, even if it is a fren who is taking drugs, living dangerously or what, will you tell them? If you do, will the fren appreciate it? Or should you just give up and forget it?

Is there a heaven? Is there a hell?

This is a scene or idea that has played out for centuries... Eternal damnation or eternal happiness. What is it actually? Is it real or is it just some thought?

Why I ask this is because recently in the news, there have been many great icons of society falling by the wayside.... Why do they stray? Is it because of the need for heaven now on earth? Will they go to hell for what they have done? If you were a fren to them, would you have advised them to do other things? Well, basically, heaven or hell, in my opinion, it is all based upon yourself and also your own morals and beliefs. People can stray, people can fall by the wayside, but they must always have a chance to come back into the fold... Or they will spend their time in living hell. Some people do not care, some do not even know, but in the end, it is their lives. For me, I face my own hell on earth and sometimes I tell myself that even going to hell may not seem like such a bad thing after all.

Its all in the mind I guess. Some people who are in shit situations are happy and some who are having the best of all worlds are not... Its funny lah.

Good God....!!!

You know guys and gals.... there is no God!!!... Just joking lah... But seriously though, sometimes, when things are really bad, it is the time you ask yourself if there is a higher being and the reason why you are in such a shitty situation.

Why do I say this??? Well, the energizer rabbit is demented.... and she does not know the value of money at all!!! She spoke to me last night and said... "My MRI will be about 900 plus and then my chinese doctor will be 100 plus so you must get ready 1k plus for me on Friday".... Yea right and where the hell are we gonna find that money? If she spoke with a bit of apologetic tone or shows that she is trying to save money... I still will be a bit more happy... But she just throws money into the wind and yet expects us to pay for it!!! Imagine... she wants to go for a trip to Oslo and whereever for 14 days... we will have to pay for it.. She crushed her finger during Chinese New Year and cost another close to 1k!!!! If she doesn't die... we will all surely perish!!!! And that is my gripe in life... Who will help me? Where can I find help? In Sg, medical is so expensive and even if you have Medisave, it can be wiped out so easily... Then what choice do we have but to wait for death?

And even if we could afford it, the family reserves will be so whacked that in the end, there is nothing for the survivors.... Everyday, I worry about not even having enough to pay for her funeral... My stupid sister will definitely want to have a flash and show... so it will be another big bundle... But then of course, the question will be when Energizer will actually go? At this rate... it does not seem all that near.... And to make things worse... she is losing her mind and yet not doing so fast enough... If she is a vegetable and is in a vegetative state, it will not be so bad... but she isn't and will not be there for a long while.Hai... life really stinks... and the thing is nothing can be done about it....

Monster Crawls.........

Hi ya'll.... Well monster can crawl now... and you can see from her vid.... She is getting to be quite good at it... Well, I guess that everyone has to grow up right? Some fathers will feel sad when their daughters grow up and do not love them anymore, some will even feel jealous, but I am not sure how I feel or will feel, but I am sure that I will feel very proud of her as long as I bring her up properly, and to be a responsible adult and member of society. That is the most important legacy I can leave for all my children, not money or property.... But it is also because I will not be able to leave much behind too.... muahahahahaha..... But seriously, as mentioned so many times before, we can accumulate all the wealth and so on while we are alive, but we will still turn to dust when we die... We go back from where we came from..... Now remembering such roots, material things do seem less important. Maybe some will feel that material things and perhaps having fun is more important, however, these are only temporary... Imagine if you have all the looks now or all the beauty now... if you grow old and have nothing else, what else can you rely on? Or all the money in the world, but no happiness? I guess the ability to have a good look at yourself and then be contented with what you have is important... And it is a difficult skill to have....