Busy busy busy

Its been a while since I last wrote here... Why?? Because I have been bloody busy... but in this bad economic times, being busy is a good thing.... no???

But I have really been thinking about a lot of things recently... Guess becoming a father soon does that to you. Eg, thinking about the future and so on. And also about family and so on. The result of so much thinking? Seriously a waste of bandwidth and brain cells if you ask me... What will be, will be lah...

But many families have either grown apart or grown closer due to the birth of a child. I do not only mean the couple, but the brothers and sisters of the couple and also even the cousins and so on.

Couple: Now they are even more deeply entrenched in a lifestyle that will either grind them to the core or make them happier. It depends on the family lah... If the father is the cheong cheong type, he will resent being at home... Or if the mother is the "like to go out and play" type, then she will be ground to bits in no time. But in theory... this is only a theory though, the couple will spend more time together, have something that they share together and grow closer together. For me, I suppose it will be a bonding time for me.... hmmmm better play more till end of this year..... Oh ladiesssssss... I am still available till Dec... better hurry hor...

The Immediate family:
A new birth will give families the reason to forget old grudges and to visit their brothers or sisters... Imagine.. you pissed off your brother or sister or the other way around... So you have been avoiding visiting them... Things might have gotten better or the problem solved... but the fact is the cold war though over is still on... if the baby comes... it will give you a reason to go and visit... It will also allow you to spend more time with the brother or sister you grew up with...

But on the other side of the coin.... The way you bring up your child may not be the way your brothers or sisters bring up their children..... And that is where the possibility of conflict will begin... "Oi... this is not the way to bring up your children.!!!"....."Ahhhh shaddup....lah.... you don know wat u tokin lah".... den either a flaming war will start or a cold war will start.... So shit happens lor...

Cousins and friends:
Like the brothers and sisters thing.. it brings family together because it gives people a chance to visit each other more.... Like for me.. I plan to invite my First Aunt to look after my baby....So our cousins and so on will be more in contact... Or at least that is what I hope lah.... But then of course, like any coin, there is a flip side... if the cousin drops your child or says that your child looks stupid.... war will happena and blood will be spilled.... But for me.... call my kid stupid lah... say stupid things about them oso never mind lah.... After all.. sticks and stones babes.... For me... I believe in what I believe... I do not care what others think or say... because they are also free to believe and to say... If you are confident of yourself, then whatever anyone says or does... it will basically not matter.... That is why also I do things because I want to and not because I have to... But then of course.... now... with a kid... I will have to lor..... no choice.... hehehehhehehe